I spent some time today doing some searching for resources that I could link to and found a great site. It’s an About.com section/area so you may feel overwhelmed by the advertising but don’t let that stop you from reading the materials.
One interesting thing I found out while skimming the articles there was that I am now known as an ACOD. Which stands for an Adult Child Of Divorce. I love being an Acronym.
Anyways, check it out then come back here and let me know if it helped at all.
Here are some quotes that I found relevant to what I have gone through.
I would have put my foot down far sooner over my parents making me their messenger. It HURTS to be in the middle like that, and parents have no business putting their children of any age in that position. I should have told them from the start that I would not be their messenger, their go-between, their middleman, and followed through. Would they have been angry? Sure. Would they still have stopped speaking to each other if they hadn’t had me to communicate through? There’s no telling. But it would have been much easier for me. That was one of the worst parts of the whole ordeal. And it’s something no one should have to go through.
Laura Little - In Retrospect
In an article called Shattering the Myths, these gems came out.
Adult children may not live at home, but there is a definite peace of mind in knowing that there is a “home” to go to, should the need arise. That feeling of home and backdrop of support are very important to most adults, especially those just starting out on their own. And parental divorce erases all of that. Also, while day-to-day activities may not be affected as they are for children that live at home, some activities will be affected. Most adults still visit parents, call them on the phone, etc. These now require twice as much time. Events and holidays must be split. I could write an entire column just listing the ways parental divorce affects the daily lives of adult children.
Laura Little - Shattering the Myths
This is probably the first time I stuck around to read anything on about.com and I was pleasantly surprised at the information I found there.
